How close is too close for everyone to be comfortable? PLEASE READ!?

the crowd is a little tough here - ignore that part and take what is useful to you. I'm an adoptive mom, with no contact with my daughter's mom (her choice). I would be comfortable with the kind of situation you are describing, but it is somewhat personal. It will be easy for you when your daughter asks where she came from, who she looks like etc. But you need to be sure you are ready for adoption. Some people do become pregnant after adopting, but most don't. You will need a home study - everyone does. You don't need to be debt free, but you need to be able to afford to raise a child (modestly is fine). The study also checks for criminal problems, health etc. It isn't that bad, but you have a bunch of paper work to fill out. An adoption attorney should be able to recommend and agency/social worker who can do the study. you should probably start by meeting the mom, and having some serious discussions with your husband about adoption. Best of luck either way.